Congrats and well wishes on surviving and getting well again. My wife and son have been through a few car accidents, no injuries to my son in the light accident, but my wife has back injuries from another one - and probably will for life. She thinks the JKU is comfortable, and isn't fazed by safety. The only reason she survived the bad accident was because she learned to drive in Germany and could steer herself to safety instead of hitting the bridge and dying. Safety stuff is good, knowing your car and how to drive is vital no matter what you drive.
Well, are you going with the 4 door then? Also check out the side air bag option, it's not much extra anyhow. Personally, I'd rather have a strong frame and rails over airbags but I can have them all, so why not.
If you are looking at new ones the ordering for the 2014's is open now, there are some decent new colors and radio options from what I have been reading.
2013 JKU Sport, billet, auto, 3.73, LSD, 315/75/16 Duratracs on MB 72, 10A springs, Bushwacker flatties
Sold - 2005 TJ, red, auto, 3.73, 33" Duratracs, 4" lift
Ice storm casualty in 2007 - 2003 TJ, green, auto, 3.73, 33" Duratracs, 4" lift