Whoever wrote that 4.10 brings the power back with 35" tires was totally wrong, not even close.s Heck, Jeep ships the Rubicon that has 31" tires with 4.10 gears so 35" tires have no business with 4.10 gearing.
If you have a manual transmission with overdrive or a 4-speed automatic with overdrive, 4.88 is ideal. No kidding, ideal. Only if you're running the 3-speed automatic should you go any higher than that and in that case, 4.56 would be ideal.
I'm personally running a 5-speed with 35" tires and 4.88 gearing on my daily driver TJ and the RPMs are absolutely perfect. At 70 mph, it's only turning over around 2700 RPMs. The slightly higher RPMs you would see than how it ships from the factory with, say, 30" tires is necessary because of the larger tire's heavier weight, increased rolling resistance, increased radius creating more leverage against the engine and drivetrain, and that a lifted Jeep creates more wind resistance to overcome.