repaced the 4.0 housing with the 2.5 one and it works great now. starts fines and idles good. figured i'd include pictures for anyone in the future that needs help
circled is where i grinded the notch off 4.0 housing
2.5 sensor in 4.0 housing before i switched it back into 2.5 housing(marked 2.5L)
4.0 tb assembled with 2.5 housing and sensor. as far as i am aware, the tps sensors are same on both throttle bodies
tip:be careful to not damage the paper gasket when taking housing apart. if it does rip, you can use the 4.0 housing one also or sit it in place and put a drop of super glue over tears, seal and torque properly
tip: tb's are soft metal, use throttle body and carb cleaner only, they are sensor safe cleaners. i don't recommend brake cleaner.