I'm 5'7" and have a soft top. I find it easiest to put the top down by getting in the jeep and standing on the front seats to push it to sunrider, then I climb in the back seat to push it all the way down. Only takes a few seconds. It rains here a lot (Savannah), so I mostly run it with the back side and rear windows off and leave the top up.
I'd say definitely have her try it out at the dealership.
Didn't the top come with a bag for the panels? My jeep did. I also have a JKU, and the panels go in the bag, that has built in straps that attach it to the back of the rear seat.
It came with the bag but it takes forever to put them in it. I would only use it if I were storing mine at home. It's much faster just using a blanket that I keep in the back to protect them. They make better bags to hold them that aren't so difficult to use. Taking the hard tops on and off isn't difficult. But putting them in the factory bag now that's a pain.
I am 5' 5" and have no problem with my soft top. I open the tailgate and stand in the back of my Jeep to lower and raise my top.
I'm 5' 6" and do the same thing. It took me way too long to figure that move out. Before, I had been standing on the back seat to raise the top. Standing on the rear bumper with the gate open is way easier.
My wife drives our Unlimited as a DD, She is 5-7" and can handle the soft top by herself. She also loves the sunrider option, it really opens up the top almost as well as having the top all the way back. After looking at the hard tops, she wouldn't even consider getting one, she likes the top back or off as much as possible.
I've got a TJ so I have nothing to add about your freedom tops and what not. I do, however, know my better half appreciates the pack of hairbands I wrapped around the shifter so she doesn't have to worry about her hair getting in her face.
Not tonight Joey, we'll get em another night.