My old rig (O3 Rubicon) was a 4 1/2" RE short arm on 285 MTRs... And I did it all just fine.
Why not keep the stock wheels?
I ran an Auto and did a TC Drop to keep away the DL Vibe.
Alot of LA kits have a cool belly-up. I'd look into a Short Shaft or a CV Drive Shaft.
That 9.5Ti Winch Rocks I just got my second one for my 07 JK.