I concur with others here. I am glad your wife is OK. I am also altruistic, and am in the patient services (social worker/RN). My wife has a negative look at life. Im not wealthy, I dont have much, and I have been called every name in the book, however I do my best to keep a positive attitude. I have a wife that loves me and 2 great healthy little boys. I work in a facility where children are born with terrible birth defects and teenagers come in with head injuries from accidents, shootings, and suicide attempts. I see the pain of some of these families, and hear nor see nothing from others. I am grateful for what I have. Try to see the positives, it is hard sometimes, but when I feel like everything is against me, I stop and think of how much worse life could be, and know it is not that bad.