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Old 07-12-2013, 08:53 AM   #1
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Help with wife!

Can't get the wife interested in the Jeep. I asked her today, "what would make you interested in it?" she said, "when you sell it" :o shes not much into outdoors, camping, or hiking, all of which I enjoy. Any suggestions?

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Can't get the wife interested in the Jeep. I asked her today, "what would make you interested in it?" she said, "when you sell it" :o shes not much into outdoors, camping, or hiking, all of which I enjoy. Any suggestions?
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Take her to the dealer with you and go for a test drive.
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What does she like? Find a way to incorporate her fun with Jeep fun and it may help a bit. Join a Jeep club and get the wife to go with you... she will meet other ladies that actually do enjoy Jeepin and that might help you out too. Get her interested in photography and have her take all your Jeepin' pictures?

Good luck... my wife wasn't too keen on Jeepin' at first either, but now after 20 years, she likes it MOST of the time.

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Take her to the dealer with you and go for a test drive.
When she sees the price of a new one, that might help some too!
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Take her to a winery, have lunch. after a few glasses of wine she'll be all smiles. Take top off (the jeeps that is) and let her bask in the rays! Nice country roades. Stop by a stream or lake, put some Barry White on. You finish the story from here!
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Find a pretty young thing to go wheeling with you a few times-skimpy attire a plus. Bring back pictures to show the wife all the fun you had.

Seriously, it took deep snow to convince my Uptown Girl of the value, but she still complains about the ride every time we go somewhere in the Jeep. I'm going to Moab with one of our daughters since she doesn't want to go.

It sucks, I know, when your wife doesn't enjoy something you do, so you just have to find other people to share it with if she is going to be reticent or complain.
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My wife has her Chrysler 200 and I have my Jeep. She wanted the 200 and got it. I wanted a Jeep and got it. If she wants to join me back-country, she's welcome. If she doesn't, I have friends that will join me.

I don't know why spouses feel they have the right to choose their partner's ride. It may be a control thing and if so, you need to resolve that and leave the Jeep out of it. Do this for the Jeep! It's a terrible thing when a Jeep owner and the spouse fight and the Jeep is usually the one most hurt because of it.
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Thanks for the suggestions all! I don't care what she drives, I just wanted her to try to be interested in something that I am to do things together besides shopping and watching TV :/ she has a minivan that she wanted and it is nice. I have never tried to pick the vehicle that she drives
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Can't get the wife interested in the Jeep. I asked her today, "what would make you interested in it?" she said, "when you sell it" :o shes not much into outdoors, camping, or hiking, all of which I enjoy. Any suggestions?
and how did you meet her????????

regardless, if shes hell bent against them then you're not going to convince her otherwise...it could be that she just hates the way they look or hates the way they ride or something of that nature...the capabilities and usability wont matter in any way to her and she wont change her mind.

For example: I will end up getting a little hatchback eventually for the usability, gas mileage, and small size of it. She absolutely HATES hatchbacks and it doesnt matter that we could put our snowboards and dogs in the same vehicle, get 35 mpg, and head to the mountains for a day trip. She just hates the look and that'll never change.

If you want it, then get it as said above...let her get whatever vehicle she wants as well...if she wants to go with you, great...if she doesnt, then you can have a guys day/night without her.
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[QUOTE=Lbear;3954093]Find a pretty young thing to go wheeling with you a few times-skimpy attire a plus. Bring back pictures to show the wife all the fun you had. [quote]

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Been married 20 years, together for over 23. The Jeep is the FIRST vehicle we've bought that we both wanted.

That said, lets talk about my other toys. Since I was in high school, all I wanted was a Mitsu 3000GT VR4. AWD, twin turbo, bada$$ factory car. Family came first so the car waited. In '06, I got a part time job to exclusively buy the VR4. Wife was all for it, I deserved it she said (I agree). Wife hated it, it sat too low, needed premium gas and I spent too much time with it, lol. Well, I'm a car guy, so upgrades and mods followed. Along with a blown motor. A couple years go by, my Dad passes and he left me his mint '71 Stingray. Its a weekend cruiser, never sees water. Nothing like top down, listening to that V8 purr (or roar when I ask her too). She hates that car too. Neither of them are practical (no kidding). I take it to local car shows during the season, and it eats into time with her. Oh, I've offered to take her to the shows, but they are too boring.
Long story shortened, if shes not into it, gonna be real hard to change a mind. If you had snow, you could prove its safety and value in the snow. Other than that, its a gas eating toy, lol.
So we both wanted the Jeep, got it registered this week and I got a winch and speakers and told her we needed a new front bumper for the winch. Now shes beginning to not like the Jeep so much, lol. I think it boils down to my need to modify all my cars. Upgrading costs money, and while she'll spend it like the devil on mani/pedi's each week, I'm building the Jeep too fast, lol. Its a lose/lose bro. Find a club, go wheeling. Offer to take her a few times, then go by yourself when see says no. Then stop asking her and tell her your going. She'll either ask to go to spend time doing something you like, or she'll be like mine, stay at home, miserable and knitting
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How did you meet her?! lol

Let her crawl over the car of the PTA mom that she most hates. After feeling the satisfying crunch of glass and metal under the tires paired with victory over a self-righteous super mom, the hook will be set!
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Seriously, there are probably some things you'll never come together on. But, there had to be a LOT of things about you she liked. Spend a decent amount of time on them. Personally, I'll never understand shoes as an addiction....
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She is responsible for her happiness and you are responsible for yours. Own it. Be reasonable but be happy. Could go deeper in detail but marriage isn't always about compromise and resentment is for chumps.
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If she isn't into it, she isn't. Ms BlueRidge has luckily come around to spending time in the woods with me and now enjoys Jeep rides, though we still have differing opinions on why the doors are equiped (rain, am I right?! ... Or 'But it's too windy, wah wah'? Lol). As for how I got her in the woods; little bites. An overnight trip to the Nat Park, sightseeing of course. Short day hikes with rewarding views, city type parks with woodsy trails, historic sites that just happen to be 'down the trail', etc. Then, on vacation to the beach I threw in a few nights at a campground (state park) to add an extra 3 nights at the beach. Uh, for her... sure. Then we ate lobster watching a sunset over the water on the beach, that was pretty hard to beat. Before long she's planning trips. But then if ANY chance of rain comes, it's "that won't be fun." So even after all the progress (years), she still won't truely "come around".

(Insert cheesy "if you love her you'd stop, if she loves you she wouldn't let you" advice here.)

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Good stuff, thanks for the advice. She was much more adventurous before we had kids. I wouldnt trade them for the world tho
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She was much more adventurous before we had kids. I wouldnt trade them for the world tho
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alright ladies and gents, lets keep this thread on topic, and useful. The inappropriate comments need to be left at the door before you come in.
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I don't get it. If she doesn't like the Jeep, then ask her why. If she wants something else then get her that and move on. If she doesn't like that then your with the wrong person. Pretty simple
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I am not trying to convince her to get a Jeep for herself. As I stated, she gets to drive whatever she wants. She loathes that I like modding it ("it's a money pit" she says) and she doesn't like that I like spending time on it tinkering and such. Thanks again for those with good nuggets of info... I guess she also would just rather knit while I have a good time wheeling and modding
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Ok dude, here is your IN ! Find a simple Mod or something cool she can Make for the Jeep. You will have to get creative , but I'll bet you it works ! A shifter boot, a Jeep Seat Towel , anything ! A storage idea or something like that.
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THAT is a great idea thanks
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Seriously , paint your dash and let her pick the colors or figure out what would look good. She might surprise you ! Women love that stuff.
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It's all about getting her involved and getting her opinion. That's the KEY !
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I know where your coming from. My wife doesnt care much for the jeep either. I've had it for 3 years now and she has only ridden in it maybe 10 or 12 times. I took her to Rausch Creek to go wheeling last year and she said she would go again so that was a big plus.
I have found that its best not to be pushy and do you best to keep her involved.
Example; I painted my jeep 2 weeks ago, I was up in the air as to what color I wanted to paint it so I let her choose She liked the OD green so thats what we went with (at least she has good taste
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I am not trying to convince her to get a Jeep for herself. As I stated, she gets to drive whatever she wants. She loathes that I like modding it ("it's a money pit" she says) and she doesn't like that I like spending time on it tinkering and such. Thanks again for those with good nuggets of info... I guess she also would just rather knit while I have a good time wheeling and modding
There it is my friend! As many have said, include her. My wife knits and all that other yarny stuff and she can make anything with it. Ask her to make a seat cover or as suggested a towel to put on the seat on those dewey mornings. Or a headrest cover. Maybe a nice blanket to go over the back seat! It would protect it from fading and be a nice accent no one else would have. She could even 'write' Jeep or whatever you've named your rig.
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I am not trying to convince her to get a Jeep for herself. As I stated, she gets to drive whatever she wants. She loathes that I like modding it ("it's a money pit" she says) and she doesn't like that I like spending time on it tinkering and such. Thanks again for those with good nuggets of info... I guess she also would just rather knit while I have a good time wheeling and modding
There you go, you already know why she doesn't like it. She hates your girlfriend because you are spending all your lovin' out in the garage, and she gets dirty hands and engine grease when you're done. She wants first pick, not dirty seconds.

If all the other bills are paid, and she has fun money, I seriously doubt that she cares about all the mods and how much they cost. It's time she wants.

I recommend setting dates with your wife, and dates with your girlfriend. Set wife dates first. Girlfriends get secondary priority. Never give your girlfriend a better mink coat than the one you gave your wife, right? Once you've fulfilled your family time, I'm betting she isn't going to care that you spend two evenings a week out in the garage after the kids are in bed.
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My wife was ok with me getting my jeep. Then after the "I need this and I need that" she started to try and slow down the modding. But after a road trip and an accident of being rear ended by a DUI doing 60+. Seeing how well the jeep held up and driving away and the "other guy" getting demolished. She promptly traded in her KIA for a 13' JKU. Point being, jeeps are rugged and SAFE! She gladly gave up 35+ MPG and better comfort for safety. With a mild lift and bigger tires. She feels more confident on the road. People are gonna be idiots and do stupid things, the question is will you be prepared.

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