Originally Posted by DirtRoad
Hey CC - glad to hear ya'll got it worked out!
It really is the "little things" that tear apart relationships. Big things tend to blow up and you have no choice but to deal with them... but those darn little things chip away here... aw... no biggie, it's just a little thing. And another little chip here... aww nuts, oh well, it's just another little thing. And another chip here... dang it, why aren't they more careful with this, look at all the chips and dings! And before you know it, you have a pile of rubble.
Amen brother. I let the little things get to me for way too long until there was no way to get back to a good place (recently divorced). In hindsight none of it was important enough to ruin a marriage and separate a family but somehow it all added up to that.
To the OP, everybody needs to vent. Be careful who you vent to and what is said. If you talk to your family it affects the way they see your spouse. Same with friends and co-workers. They start treating your spouse differently, she'll notice and it's another log on the fire. If it goes too far you may have to avoid friends and family as a consequence. Best of luck to you.