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10-16-2012 01:11 AM
silver rubi
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Originally Posted by Turbostixxx
Wtf? Where is your post you were trying to screw with me at?
No idea now lol
10-16-2012 12:56 AM
Turbostixxx Wtf? Where is your post you were trying to screw with me at?
10-16-2012 12:53 AM
silver rubi
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Originally Posted by Jeepers Creepers Silver
Funny, I just caught this on a current thread refresh. I did not even notice the date. Now I want a update!
I went to search for a thread yesterday to mess with turbo and a bunch of old threads popped up I guess. I don't ever look at the dates lol
10-16-2012 12:51 AM
Jeepers Creepers Silver Funny, I just caught this on a current thread refresh. I did not even notice the date. Now I want a update!
10-16-2012 12:49 AM
silver rubi
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Originally Posted by flyfish29
How did this May 2011 thread get dug up?

I do want to find out what happened.
Update?!?

I agree with others don't marry cause she isn't going to get any kinder with a ring on her finger that is for sure!!

Oh yeah. Please pass the A1 please.
Haha I apparently dug up a bunch of old threads last night oooppsss..was searching for one and stumbled upon many lol
10-15-2012 11:27 PM
Jeepers Creepers Silver You obviously have the doubt already. Make a pro/con list and weigh it out. Talk to some really close friends that you respect and trust. But whatever you do with regards to continuing or stopping the relationship, don't half commit and sit on the fence because you are setting yourself up for misery that way.
10-15-2012 10:51 PM
Irishbaja Ditto...RUN LIKE THE WIND! If you are questioning it at this point and asking advice on a public forum you already know the answer. I didn't pay attention to how old it was, but regardless it won't get any better if anything it will get worse. You can't change someone if your not good enough for her now you sure won't be when you get a ring on her finger. Sounds to me like your good enough to give her and her kids a place to live and provide for them, but not good enough for her father. Ditch her at your age you'll find someone who appreciates you. I wasted 15yrs on someone I thought would eventually change and now I'm 42 and single talk about a dating pool shock!
10-15-2012 10:50 PM
_3m Listen to people who have learned the hard way, if things aren't grand now they won't ever be. Find someone who you mesh well with, who's your best friend and you actually enjoy talking with. If everything is your fault then clearly she thinks you are wrong then that's a big red flag. You're better to cut your losses and find someone that compliments your personality rather than butts heads. I found my girl and she was my everything, my best friend and my lover. I lost her at the age of 34 and not a day goes by that I don't miss her with all my heart.
10-15-2012 10:46 PM
flyfish29 How did this May 2011 thread get dug up?

I do want to find out what happened.
Update?!?

I agree with others don't marry cause she isn't going to get any kinder with a ring on her finger that is for sure!!

Oh yeah. Please pass the A1 please.
10-15-2012 10:37 PM
Jeepers Creepers Silver When you are in a committed long term relationship the two of you need to be back to back swinging at anything in the world that threatens the two of you. It sounds to me like she is swinging plenty, but facing the wrong way...
10-15-2012 10:29 PM
daggo66 I have to agree with her. A1 and tobacco? I really hope you meant tabasco, but either is just wrong unless you're eating steak at Sizzler, which is also wrong.
10-15-2012 10:15 PM
ronrad
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Originally Posted by whetstone
Walk.
Run dont walk. I'm currently starting my own divorce after 15 years and that sounds eerily familiar.
10-15-2012 09:57 PM
whetstone Walk.
10-15-2012 08:38 PM
Carlsbad0331 The simple fact that you are posting this tells me that you are looking for justification to end it. You are obviously a well adjusted person, with a long and sometimes difficult career ahead of them.
It is my humble opinion as a twice divorced former US Marine and LEO that you should move on and ask her to do the same. I personally have a rule to NEVER date or get involved with someone I work with, and every time Ive broken that rule (even for a night) it has not worked out well.
I wish you the best, and whatever your decision I appreciate and respect your career choice.
10-15-2012 08:07 PM
Nymeria 2 alpha dogs in the same household is tough! I'm assuming that eating your steak this way is not a new developement. I'm thinking its just fine. You have to let people be who they are. There are always things about someone else that might irk you but thats life. You should not ever feel put down or be put down.
10-15-2012 07:54 PM
silver rubi
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Originally Posted by FirstJeep4Me View Post
She has to be able to love you for who you are, or it will never work. At least you are learning how she feels about you before you guys get married. I have been with girls that have done things that I didn't like and I tried to change them. It doesn't work. A person should never be asked to change who they are, unless it is hurting them or someone else.
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06-03-2011 05:58 PM
Vici You might be finding out why she's gorgeous and yet is 34 yo and couldn't make it work with either father of either child. Sure there's always two sides to either story but if she's such a catch someone would be more willing to hang onto her and they might have had their reasons to run. Or they could have been someone worth runnng from too. We don't know but you might.

But your "loved one" should make you feel loved. How you eat is trifling at best. Something to tease about every now and then but a NON-ISSUE in the grand scheme of a relationship. She may be gorgeous but there's plenty of pretty fishies in the sea and you sound like a seriously decent guy. You do need to think of her kids. People have mentioned you getting attached to them, but you also need to think about them getting attached to you. If you decide you're not going to be with this woman, the sooner you end it the better for them. Before they become even more attached to you.

Good luck with everything though!
06-02-2011 09:16 PM
seadog I have to agree with the guys that are telling you to back off. She might be great in the sack, but that is not what makes a great relationship.

I lost my first wife to cancer after 19 years together. Waited awhile, then jumped into the deep end of dating. Pretty scary at 38.

But, I got through it. Had a few false starts. Sex was good, but mindset sucked. Their kids were angels. Mine were Devils. Even though they were doing the same things.

While in Grief counseling, I met a woman that lost her son to MD. We knew each other for 2 1/2 years before we dated. Been married for almost 7 years.
06-02-2011 09:03 PM
LaTuFu Trust your instincts now or you will be kicking yourself later.

She's a trainwreck and your brain knows it. Your heart or your male ego doesn't want to admit that you made a mistake.

Let her go now. The heartache of moving on will be much cheaper emotionally and financially if you do it now.

There are women out there who will treat you better. Pinky promise.
06-02-2011 08:26 PM
Aspenskibum Sorry to hear about the issues , have you ask why she dogs you out ? Seems likes maybe she had an inferiority complex and finding something to bring you down , gives her a boost . But if you can't resolve it now it won't get any better. I could not live with a women who always dogs me . Good luck !!!
05-29-2011 09:50 PM
jailguard Therapy
05-29-2011 09:45 PM
SirCanni Dude life is too short not to be happy. Last thing you want to do is get her knocked up. She's already had 2 kids with 2 different men tells me she's bat sheit crazy and they couldn't stand her either. It's not gonna get any better get out now while you still can. You're young, enjoy life and find someone you have more in common with.
05-29-2011 08:46 PM
Bs13855 I appreciates everyones advice. Thank you all. I guess I'll give her a bit see how things go and go from there. I don't want y'all thinking I'm some kinda pushover I'm just a simple man from bama. I've never had these problems before cause if I wasn't happy in a relationship it was NEXT. However I really love her and understand she has problems .


Problems including terrible mother and father relationship. Two different baby daddy's. O.C.D " my house is usually spotless but I have an English bull" she can't quit cleaning. And her oldest child who is 15 would rather be living with her adopted father from her prev marriage and she would probably rather be mothered by her adopted fathers girlfriend.


Wow looking at words. I've never really realized all the issues she really has.


My issues besides me working on my jeep too much equals none
05-29-2011 08:16 PM
fan of fanboys
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Originally Posted by Matcheen

IMHO

I agree with her. Learn to eat like a grown up and maybe she will treat you like one.

Obviously she doesn't want you to meet her father, so think about that one too...
Is there any more manly a combination than a1 + Tabasco + steak? I think not. As long as he orders med rare.
05-29-2011 08:10 PM
Matcheen
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Originally Posted by Bs13855 View Post
Why? Cause I just found out from her I don't eat my steak correctly cause I use a1 steak sauce, tobacco and I cut my steak into pieces prior to eating ohhhh forgot to add I ordered French fries on the side. And when I tell her she is rude to me she turns it on me and it all becomes my fault.
IMHO

I agree with her. Learn to eat like a grown up and maybe she will treat you like one.

Obviously she doesn't want you to meet her father, so think about that one too...
05-29-2011 07:40 PM
InfernoGirl If you aren't good enough for her now, you never will be............
05-29-2011 06:32 PM
coolbreeze My advice is don't get married. Good luck.
05-29-2011 06:31 PM
Driver1 Sounds like you have alot to offer, take that into consideration when you make your decision, living together is tough and everybody gets on each others nerves after awhile, Try getting her away from the kids for a bit and really get down to the basics of your relationship, If at that point it feels as if she really is just using you, then grab your balls and bounce. But if it seems like an underlying issue is causing her to lash out then figure it out together and let her know that you care for her deeply and only want the best for her and her kids. Be Sincere. A confident man will get his way, but a man lacking in self worth will be walked all over. With that said, I hope you find what it is your looking for, and dont settle for second best, we are all worth more than we give ourselves credit for. Take care.
05-29-2011 06:23 PM
Bs13855
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Originally Posted by FirstJeep4Me
She has to be able to love you for who you are, or it will never work. At least you are learning how she feels about you before you guys get married. I have been with girls that have done things that I didn't like and I tried to change them. It doesn't work. A person should never be asked to change who they are, unless it is hurting them or someone else.
Thanks I do appreciate that.
05-29-2011 06:09 PM
FirstJeep4Me She has to be able to love you for who you are, or it will never work. At least you are learning how she feels about you before you guys get married. I have been with girls that have done things that I didn't like and I tried to change them. It doesn't work. A person should never be asked to change who they are, unless it is hurting them or someone else.
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