|05-16-2008 06:59 AM|
She was partying with some of her friends one Friday evening. They all decided to climb across a small river on a pipe-bridge. As she was walking across she lost her footing and slipped off. She hit her head on the way down and was knocked unconscious and drowned.
My life and the lives of my classmates completely changed that day forward. The world around us changed too. Life got serious real quick. The entire senior class (and the high school) grew up and the nonsense stopped. We all realized we were not invinceable anymore. One stupid move, one bad decision could change everything....not just for us but for everyone around us.
I don't believe she died in vain, I believe her death had a tremendous benefit. It scared all of us straight and brought us together as a group. We were a small group to begin with but this event brought us so much closer. We began to watch out for each other and really care for each other.
Much like how the schools park a burned out car in front of the high school during prom season to prevent drunk driving... Seeing one of your classmates laying in a coffin will change you forever....GUARANTEED!!!
|05-15-2008 10:18 PM|
Being a ''blood border teen" I have lots of stories. I'd beat the living tar out of my kids for doing what we've done. Someone was looking out for us but every person during that time frame on the border of WI has a friend or aquaintance that never saw graduation or adulthood.
I make my wild child's life hell, including making him empty his pockets, search his car, check his socks even and I've done it in front of his friends. I don't care....why, I just attended the funeral of my nephew last month. He died at 20 of an overdose. So I'll be the psycho mom bitch from hell everytime I think my kid has been drinking or smoking weed. Perhaps that is what one must do so the kids don't step up to harder crap like my nephew did.
See a kid laying in a casket, watch his parents and siblings and grandparents. I still can't shake these visions or the nausea away.
Keep it tame, keep out of the cars and think twice of who you could affect with your actions.
|05-15-2008 11:27 AM|
I think what is important to remember is that the "experienced" members have done these things and the "less experienced" crowd can benefit form our mistakes...(if they want to observe them).
Not trying to be preachy, but nobody wants to see anyone on here get hurt or hurt someone else. We were 18 at once and we managed to survive to tell the story of how we did it... There's a lot of value in learning from someone else's mistakes and not having to live through it yourself..
Today's society is much faster paced than it was 20 years ago. The pressures are much greater... I implore the younger crowd to learn from our mistakes and ask questions.... Chance are, we went through this stuff.
|05-15-2008 07:54 AM|
Nevermind the fact that the party had about 200 people IN MY HOUSE.
Nevermind that alcohol was served to about 200 minors IN MY HOUSE.
Nevermind that those same minors were driving after the party. That makes my wife and me liable because it occurred at my house. Fortunately, the police showed up and broke up the party. We had friends on the police force and they were going to let us know, but our daughter fessed up before the cops called us. Either way she was toast, and she knew it.
So don't think she can't do anything about it. Believe me, parents have very creative minds on how to deal with kids doing stupid crap like that. I know we did. While she didn't get arrested, she definitely did not get off easily. Her car, that we bought her, was towed and removed from the house property. We enjoyed letting her think we sold the car (since our name was on the title). It was secured in a storage facility for the remainder of the year and summer. She had to take the bus to school, which was humiliating for a senior that had had their own car. Everybody we knew knew what she did (small town), so the humiliation was complete.
She hasn't pulled any of that stupid crap since.
While you may have cleaned up the house, the potential for serious problems could have occurred and you're damn lucky nothing came of it.
Yeah, I understand about being a senior in high school and all the parties you 'have' to go to. But get your head out of your azz long enough to at least get some air and think about what could happen if something bad happens. While you may not be liable, members of your family could be.
I lost a couple of good friends on prom night after they partied, drank, and tried to get to the hotel. The parents of the kid that threw the party were arrested and charged with crimes.
Yeah, there's nothing your parents can do. It completely rests with you. If I were you, I'd man up and tell them what you did instead of getting ratted out by your sister.
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|05-14-2008 06:34 PM|
|rebelBullDawg325||i remember HS.... i should it was only 2 years ago. but some of yall older folks are right about the parents getting in toruble not the kids. i'm kinda old school, and think the kids should get the punishment. but then again at my house. if i woulda got caught, regardless if my parents got in trouble, i woulda had my @$$ whooped so bad it'd never stop hurting|
|05-12-2008 07:05 PM|
|payj90||yeah around here its a pretty small town, we have about 3 party houses we go to but the rules are no fighting inside, and what hapens there stays there. pretty much we go out twice a weekend usually to a diffrent place. prom night saturday we hit 4 diffrent partys. it was a good time.|
|05-12-2008 04:54 PM|
Ya I would rather go to any house but mine.
|05-12-2008 04:09 PM|
he even spelled a few things wrogn like me, i like this guy!!!
i would never throw a huge party at my house, thats just asking for trouble, but i know kids that do it three times a month adn never get cuaght and their stuff doesn't get broken, idk how they do it haha
|05-12-2008 03:08 PM|
|payj90||i party in feilds, other peoples houses, the middle of no where. i get to do almost anything i want, but party in my own house no way your just asking for trouble.|
|05-12-2008 01:35 PM|
An no...no chance of being left home alone. Remember, rules are different for girls than guys. Last thing I did in my day was violate a dads rule for his daughter.
Her prom was Saturday, and boyfriend was instructed (while I sat cleaning my nails with a boot knife) that she was to home within 30 minutes (driving distance from prom site) of it being over with. They were 5 minute early.
|05-12-2008 01:22 PM|
MOz, the kids just don't get that. That we end up in an assload of trouble, regardless if we know about it or not and we end up being sued, fined, and all that crap.
In my day, we got in trouble, parents were called and that was that. Nowadays, even for the smallest of BS, it's legal fees, fines and assorted other nightmares. Not the same...do whatever when you are in your own house and out of mine. Everyone who wants to start a family these days should get a bunch of wild ass teenages to supervise for at least six months before they go thinking how sweet and perfect life would be with a baby! LOL!!!
|05-12-2008 12:28 PM|
I've worked too hard and too long to have my stuff trashed or get arrested for "contributing to the delinquency of minors".... Not to mention the thousands of dollars in fines they doll out to the parents when they bust a party these days....
Sorry dude...been there done that...won't happen on my watch.
|05-12-2008 10:00 AM|
She'll still make you pay, eventually, and you won't see it coming.
Nope, will not leave town and the kids behind, tried it once, it only took once. Now I stay home and make their lives miserable.
|05-11-2008 11:11 PM|
so then she doesn't have to kick me out
|05-11-2008 10:53 PM|
|amy||20 years from now, your Mom will find a way to make you pay...|
|05-11-2008 10:43 PM|
except I'm moving out in august
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|05-11-2008 05:20 PM|
but I already had the party, she can't really do anything about it now
and I cleaned it all up
|05-11-2008 04:58 PM|
I'm tell'n your Mom! Neener, neener, neener.
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|05-11-2008 01:37 PM|
my gf is a senior this year and we had prom friday nite.. my next door neighbor's parents were in the process of moving to detriot so he was home alone for this whole weeekend.. he had two proms this weekend.. friday and saturday nite..
yah it was a hectic weekend with parties two nites in a row =p
|05-11-2008 01:21 PM|
I had the best night of my life last night...
and I didn't even go to prom
I know there are a lot of parents on here... so would you really leave your son home alone for the weekend the same weekend of his senior prom?