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04-30-2013 07:49 PM
Big Cole
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Originally Posted by AV8R View Post

Meh. That's how I roll and I've been married over 17 years. Well, maybe not intoxicated every night... Gettin too old for that. But the laid part...

My wife doesn't say shit about my jeep or what I do, just as I don't say shit about what she likes to do. I like guy stuff, she likes girl stuff. That's how it's supposed to be.

I married a good one... Looks like some of y'all didn't. Why you would sit there and let your wife assume the roll of your mother is beyond me.
I'm with you man. Some of us were stricter in vetting our future wife. I bought a 69 chevelle last month without mentioning it to my wife. She came home from work and it was parked in the garage. Wife doesn't care what I do and I am totally supportive of her hobbies.
04-30-2013 07:49 PM
cclax44 get a new wife.

kidding! i think the safety upgrades are the way to go. depending where you live, installing lockers would make driving in snow easier for the mrs.
04-30-2013 07:35 PM
KBR97
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Originally Posted by AV8R View Post
Meh. That's how I roll and I've been married over 17 years. Well, maybe not intoxicated every night... Gettin too old for that. But the laid part...

My wife doesn't say shit about my jeep or what I do, just as I don't say shit about what she likes to do. I like guy stuff, she likes girl stuff. That's how it's supposed to be.

I married a good one... Looks like some of y'all didn't. Why you would sit there and let your wife assume the roll of your mother is beyond me.
You and me both. My wife is the best...along with your's lol.

I have a lot of "hobbies" and most of them can get quite expensive whether its Jeeps, guns, guitars, hiking equipment. I don't hide anything from her. I tell her this is what I'm doing and this is why I'm doing it, OK?..good.
If I can't enjoy life...whats the point of living?
04-29-2013 01:08 PM
AV8R
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Originally Posted by derf View Post
S-I-N-G-L-E

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Intoxicated
Nightly
Get
Laid
Everyday

Meh. That's how I roll and I've been married over 17 years. Well, maybe not intoxicated every night... Gettin too old for that. But the laid part...

My wife doesn't say shit about my jeep or what I do, just as I don't say shit about what she likes to do. I like guy stuff, she likes girl stuff. That's how it's supposed to be.

I married a good one... Looks like some of y'all didn't. Why you would sit there and let your wife assume the roll of your mother is beyond me.
04-29-2013 12:00 PM
KittyPrawn The value mods, personal or performance, will always depend on the taste and desires of the buyer. So, if you are thinking in terms of value, you kind of have to think in terms of how long you can wait to find the perfect buyer that will give you the perfect price.

Chances are higher that you will lose money on the mods.

Now, to the topic on hand, I 100% agree with Whetstone. You need to talk to her and figure out the why of the situation. Talk to her about what she is hesitant about, but make sure to do so with an open mind. Try and find a middle ground or ease her worry... but remember there is a fine line between dismissing what she's saying and defending your stance.
04-29-2013 11:49 AM
jokerchief462 Let her drive! Then explain how much better the mods will make the experience not to mention safer and more reliable. Mine is not in love with looking down over the edge of the trail 300 feet into a canyon. Her biggest thrill was when we had 3 ladies show up with their own Jeeps. He latest comment Sunday after a great trip was as soon as the new job goes through you need to regear your Yj is too slwo on the highway.
04-29-2013 09:37 AM
Herviss Give her the jeep, trade/sell the Honda and get a older jeep to do your mods on. Or try saying please a thousand time, it doesn't work for my kids but you might have a better chance. LOL
04-29-2013 05:54 AM
KaiserJeep I would say you pay less to insure a US vehicle than an import. Nor should you be comparing insurance pricing without also comparing the coverage.

As for a 1995 YJ, that Jeep has a KBB value of less than $3000 to a little more than $5000 depending upon options, mileage, and condition. $35/mo ($420/year) sounds pretty high to me, considering they are only gonna pay you KBB value on a collision claim. You can always do a declared value policy but it's a lot more.
04-28-2013 11:45 PM
cmaggi2
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Originally Posted by TylerU View Post

how much does the insurance cost for your jeep?
I'm paying less than $90/Month for a JK in Louisiana, just shop around. Less than my ford explorer was.
04-28-2013 09:13 PM
Carlsbad0331
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Originally Posted by KaiserJeep View Post
I still own Jeeps #5, #8, and #9. I have been driving Jeeps for 35+ years, and modifying them almost as long. But you have to be realistic. Some people save every penny, borrow some more, hack up a nice Jeep, and then it breaks.

My daughter's former boyfriend used to ask for castoff Jeep parts, from me and everyone he knew. Then one day he shows up with 40" tires on his YJ, on a lift cobbled together from pieces, including lift blocks on front and rear leaf springs, and a stock front driveshaft so extended it was in danger of disconnecting, and a steering linkage that included a drag link that had been cut in half in the middle and extended via some steel tubing of indeterminate origin and some boogered up welds.

So I forbade my daughter from riding in the vehicle, and the following Saturday the kid failed to make it to a local 4WD trail. He hit a pothole in a gravel road, the front driveshaft disconnected, then it dropped down and dug into the road, flipping the Jeep and breaking the transfer case. The kid lost all four fingers on his left hand and the use of his legs.

I have seen countless broken vehicles on the trail, and very seldom is the failure due to a bad Jeep part, mostly it's broken aftermarket stuff.

I tried being a trail leader, so I could bounce anybody in the group with stuff on their Jeeps already broken, bald tires with protruding steel belts, and other stupid stuff. I stopped when a guy I actually had passed could not start his Jeep after a break on the trail. Then he reckoned he had to put on his new carburetor, from a box with a two year old postmark. Then he asked to borrow tools.

Modifying a vehicle is serious business that needs to be done right and the vehicle has to be looked after more carefully afterwards. Nor should you be in any state of delusion about this hobby - like a boat, a Jeep is a hole in which you pour money. But so is any hobby.
First, that is a horrible story about your daughters friend... But its a perfect example of natural selection. Someone stupid enough to do that, probably in his driveway (because no legitimate shop would do that because of the liability) is bound to be the subject of a horrible story. I applaud you for having the foresight to keep your daughter out of his Jeep.
I disagree about your generalization that Jeep Mods (or any vehicle mods) reduce the value of the vehicle. If the mods are done correctly, and not of a personalization (such as embroidered seat skins, or hot pink paint) they can add value. I took in to consideration the mods that were done to my YJ when buying it, and have in the past also.
I also disagree about the insurance aspect. In the last 5 years I have had a 2006 Nissan Xterra, 2007 Nissan Frontier, 2008 Nissan Armada and the 1995 Jeep YJ. I pay $35 a month for full coverage insurance on the Jeep, where as the cheapest insurance on any of the other vehicles was over $100 per month. Now of course, you might argue that the other vehicles were more valuable, therefore the insurance should be more... But each and every one of them was highly modified, lifted, etc. and the same percentage of discount would apply to just the liability portion of the insurance.
I applaud your many years of dedicated ownership to the Jeep brand, and hope that you continue to offer such insight!
04-28-2013 05:35 PM
TylerU
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Originally Posted by Southerner View Post

I am still in college, I have a worse GPA than my brother, have been involved in an accident while my brother has not, and my insurance is almost half of what his is. He drives a mustang, I drive a jeep. My jeep has big tires, a lift, and no fancy safety features. I looked at getting a vette instead. I couldn't afford the insurance.
how much does the insurance cost for your jeep?
04-28-2013 12:47 PM
Southerner
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Originally Posted by KaiserJeep View Post

5) Even if you want to deny any of this, your insurance guy knows the score, and the combination of a Wrangler and a younger driver costs about the same to insure as a Corvette with a younger driver.
I am still in college, I have a worse GPA than my brother, have been involved in an accident while my brother has not, and my insurance is almost half of what his is. He drives a mustang, I drive a jeep. My jeep has big tires, a lift, and no fancy safety features. I looked at getting a vette instead. I couldn't afford the insurance.
04-28-2013 12:22 PM
JD95YJ I let my wife know that I "need" to buy something new for my jeep. Then I promise her that it's not going to break the bank, and I tell her not to look at the bank account for a couple of weeks. That way when she does look at it, the transaction is a page or two back (out of sight, out of mind) so she doesn't notice the big chunk of change missing. Works every time and with more things than the jeep, such as electronics for the house. Of course she has every purse/pair of shoes she's ever asked for.
04-28-2013 11:30 AM
Carlsbad0331 I got the same crap from my wife until I bought her a pair of Christian Louboutin shoes... Never heard another word from her about spending money on things that were not really necessary... And I sure as hell like the way she wears those shoes (win/win).
04-28-2013 10:59 AM
TylerU very insightful reply and intetrsting story.
Never make a jeep the end rather than the means. Mod it only it's necessary.
04-28-2013 07:47 AM
KaiserJeep
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Originally Posted by Bobinayj View Post
Some very valid points. But what buzz kill....

I still own Jeeps #5, #8, and #9. I have been driving Jeeps for 35+ years, and modifying them almost as long. But you have to be realistic. Some people save every penny, borrow some more, hack up a nice Jeep, and then it breaks.

My daughter's former boyfriend used to ask for castoff Jeep parts, from me and everyone he knew. Then one day he shows up with 40" tires on his YJ, on a lift cobbled together from pieces, including lift blocks on front and rear leaf springs, and a stock front driveshaft so extended it was in danger of disconnecting, and a steering linkage that included a drag link that had been cut in half in the middle and extended via some steel tubing of indeterminate origin and some boogered up welds.

So I forbade my daughter from riding in the vehicle, and the following Saturday the kid failed to make it to a local 4WD trail. He hit a pothole in a gravel road, the front driveshaft disconnected, then it dropped down and dug into the road, flipping the Jeep and breaking the transfer case. The kid lost all four fingers on his left hand and the use of his legs.

I have seen countless broken vehicles on the trail, and very seldom is the failure due to a bad Jeep part, mostly it's broken aftermarket stuff.

I tried being a trail leader, so I could bounce anybody in the group with stuff on their Jeeps already broken, bald tires with protruding steel belts, and other stupid stuff. I stopped when a guy I actually had passed could not start his Jeep after a break on the trail. Then he reckoned he had to put on his new carburetor, from a box with a two year old postmark. Then he asked to borrow tools.

Modifying a vehicle is serious business that needs to be done right and the vehicle has to be looked after more carefully afterwards. Nor should you be in any state of delusion about this hobby - like a boat, a Jeep is a hole in which you pour money. But so is any hobby.
04-27-2013 07:11 PM
Bobinayj
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Originally Posted by KaiserJeep View Post
There is a lot of total BS in this thread. Even the OP knew he was BSing when he asked his question. Now if you want to talk TRUTH, here it is:

1) Modifying a Jeep makes it worth LESS money, not more. That means you will lose the total amount spent on the mod plus the reduction in the fair market value of the Jeep. Dealers don't want modded Jeeps on their lots because selling such to an unwary buyer leads to lawsuits. Just because the guy that installed the lift and tires knows he has to drive slower and manuever more carefully, does not mean that the teenager who is powerfully attracted to and buys the Jeep knows that. Once he's killed himself, the parents and the lawyers come after the dealer.

2) At least 90% of the mods made to Jeeps don't make them safer or more reliable. Bigger tires for example add stress to drivetrain, brakes, steering, and suspension - meaning that all must be properly addressed to get back to stock reliability levels. That actually is almost impossible to do, because Jeep tests every part they design extensively, and most aftermarket parts are minimally tested, they just get "beefed", just have steel added, which stresses anything the part is bolted to.

3) Most females don't want to ride in modified Jeeps. They are too hard to get into, their clothes get dirty, Jeeps are noisy, and their hair gets messy with the top down. Not only that, but they are going to want you to put the top up RIGHT NOW when rain starts hitting them in the face, and 10 seconds is too long to wait, much less 10 minutes, and WHAT THE H*!! DO YOU MEAN YOU LEFT THE WINDOWS AT HOME? None for you for the forseeable future, meanwhile she's shopping for somebody not obsessed with Jeeps.

4) Modified Jeeps tend to get used up a heck of a lot faster than stock Jeeps. My wife's WJ has 150,000 miles on it and it's bone stock. I built a CJ-7 once that took longer to build than it lasted in service. I know lots of people who modded Jeeps before the payments were over, then used them up so fast they were left only with memories and Jeep payments, while driving their little sister's castoff Civic that's been stuck in 2nd gear for two years.

5) Even if you want to deny any of this, your insurance guy knows the score, and the combination of a Wrangler and a younger driver costs about the same to insure as a Corvette with a younger driver.

If you can't handle the truth, you shouldn't be a Jeep driver. If you think everything above is not true, you're a noob.
Some very valid points. But what buzz kill....
04-26-2013 08:16 PM
KaiserJeep There is a lot of total BS in this thread. Even the OP knew he was BSing when he asked his question. Now if you want to talk TRUTH, here it is:

1) Modifying a Jeep makes it worth LESS money, not more. That means you will lose the total amount spent on the mod plus the reduction in the fair market value of the Jeep. Dealers don't want modded Jeeps on their lots because selling such to an unwary buyer leads to lawsuits. Just because the guy that installed the lift and tires knows he has to drive slower and manuever more carefully, does not mean that the teenager who is powerfully attracted to and buys the Jeep knows that. Once he's killed himself, the parents and the lawyers come after the dealer.

2) At least 90% of the mods made to Jeeps don't make them safer or more reliable. Bigger tires for example add stress to drivetrain, brakes, steering, and suspension - meaning that all must be properly addressed to get back to stock reliability levels. That actually is almost impossible to do, because Jeep tests every part they design extensively, and most aftermarket parts are minimally tested, they just get "beefed", just have steel added, which stresses anything the part is bolted to.

3) Most females don't want to ride in modified Jeeps. They are too hard to get into, their clothes get dirty, Jeeps are noisy, and their hair gets messy with the top down. Not only that, but they are going to want you to put the top up RIGHT NOW when rain starts hitting them in the face, and 10 seconds is too long to wait, much less 10 minutes, and WHAT THE H*!! DO YOU MEAN YOU LEFT THE WINDOWS AT HOME? None for you for the forseeable future, meanwhile she's shopping for somebody not obsessed with Jeeps.

4) Modified Jeeps tend to get used up a heck of a lot faster than stock Jeeps. My wife's WJ has 150,000 miles on it and it's bone stock. I built a CJ-7 once that took longer to build than it lasted in service. I know lots of people who modded Jeeps before the payments were over, then used them up so fast they were left only with memories and Jeep payments, while driving their little sister's castoff Civic that's been stuck in 2nd gear for two years.

5) Even if you want to deny any of this, your insurance guy knows the score, and the combination of a Wrangler and a younger driver costs about the same to insure as a Corvette with a younger driver.

If you can't handle the truth, you shouldn't be a Jeep driver. If you think everything above is not true, you're a noob.
04-26-2013 04:57 PM
DIY07 Just point out some jeeps that have been worked over that you see out and about and get some feed back. My wife is really only afraid that it will change the way it drives or make it difficult to get in and out of. I think she also doesn't understand the money that would go into it. So I am keeping stock bumpers but moding them going stubby with light bar and building my own winch mount and tire carrier down the road. Lift and tires staying under 2.5 with 33" and not until it needs tires. That gives me plenty of time to work on her. Start of with small stuff and work your way up the bug will catch if you take her out enough.
04-26-2013 03:51 PM
smokey01 This is hilarious yesterday my wife asked me why i can't just leave it the way it is.
04-26-2013 03:45 PM
JeepandMud
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Originally Posted by Papparonzi View Post
I recently bought a 2012 two door JK Sport. My wife traded in her 2010 VW Jetta and took the 2009 Honda Pilot I was driving, this was all her idea. This is my third jeep I have owned since we have been together, 22 years total, and the other two had a few mods, nothing crazy, just a mild lift and slightly bigger tires, a little body armor. I wanted to do this with the new JK and my wife is totally against it. She doesn't want me to touch it, she says this is both of ours and she just wants me to leave it as it is. Her other thought is that I don't go off road that much in Central Indiana and why do I need to change the truck? I tried to tell her I wanted to make it a little more off road worthy, leaning toward a 285x70 Duratracs and a two inch spacer lift, want to keep a good stock ride so she can drive it comfortably. I live 90 minutes from Badlands ORV Park and I am dying to go but don't want to take a totally stock truck. I want to give it a little personality and would love some ideas on convincing my wife. Also, this is not a money issue, not dipping into the kids college fund. Please help!
Kinda sounds like my fiance. I have several more I want to do with my Jeep but like your wife, he says I don't go offroading that much (mainly a weekend climber and all DD)… I do it anyways and surprise him when the UPS guy shows up. But sorry, no advice. Just my story.
04-25-2013 07:42 PM
ThatJeeperGuy
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Originally Posted by Sinister6 View Post
They are NOT mods...they are SAFETY UPGRADES!
^^^ This is excellent advice. If you use this reason well and play your cards right you wont have to answer any other question. I squeezed in a DPG offroad ultimate kit, brand new 5 mickey thompson tires and wheels in the name of safety upgrades and making the jeep more family friendly.
04-25-2013 05:30 PM
derf
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Originally Posted by jadmt View Post
Yea I remember my single buddy telling us how the single guys get sex when ever they want it and us married guys didn't. and then my other buddy says yup it was true that single guys did get more sex it was just that they were usually by themselves when they got it. I spewed beer out my nose on that one.
S-I-N-G-L-E

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Nightly
Get
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Everyday

04-25-2013 05:26 PM
jadmt
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Originally Posted by TJGARMA03 View Post
Just another reason to stay single!

Yea I remember my single buddy telling us how the single guys get sex when ever they want it and us married guys didn't. and then my other buddy says yup it was true that single guys did get more sex it was just that they were usually by themselves when they got it. I spewed beer out my nose on that one.
04-25-2013 04:36 PM
Bobinayj Have you explained to her how good she will look in a modded jeep?

Thank you for your service to our country
04-25-2013 04:19 PM
Xjnight
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Originally Posted by TJGARMA03 View Post
Just another reason to stay single!
Amen!!
04-24-2013 05:17 PM
jp2611 Thanks for your service...Fellow Hoosier who has a '12 JK Sport for my wife to drive...and I drive an '04 TJ sittin' on 33's....yeah the JK would probably do "more" than my TJ but I would feel funny tearing up the JK when I have a 10 year old Jeep to wheel...have a Chrysler 300 for family type stuff.....
04-24-2013 05:04 PM
whetstone Those guys who are telling you to do things behind your wife's back can fully expect their wives to be doing stuff behind their backs. Enjoy, fellas. Find out WHY she doesn't want you to mod the jeep and work from there. You said money isn't the issue, maybe she just likes it the way it is. Maybe she's heard how dangerous lifted vehicles are, maybe she's afraid young ladies will start chasing you. There could be a million different things she's thinking. It does sound like the most sensible thing to do, provided you have the time/space/funds is to buy a project jeep and make it your baby. Either way, good luck, and props for respecting your partner!
04-24-2013 04:43 PM
Tweak I really feel for your situation. I give you mad props for not just doing it anyway. I sure would.
04-24-2013 02:04 PM
Papparonzi
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Originally Posted by jadmt View Post
I will play the other side of the fence. Sounds like you have a sensible wife and unless you are rolling in money and have more money then you know what to do. Our economy is not getting any better and judging by your statement that you have been together 22 years and have kids approaching college age might want to step back and enjoy what you have. Your new jeep is more capable then you think and unless you are having other marital problems don't let something as stupid as spending money on a jeep become one. I find sleeping with my wife much more enjoyable then sleeping with a jeep lol. Besides what is the hurry leave it stock a while and in year try again. Trust me my wife noticed when I lifted mine 3/4" i doubt your wife is that stupid or why would you want to be married to her for 22 years lol.
I am cracking up and getting a lot of good advice. I am a disabled vet, wounded in Iraq in 2004, so my kids college is taken care of by the state (Thanks Indiana). Plus I have other money set aside for them, they are 9 & 13, that will help with other school expenses. I don't think I will risk trying to get anything over on her, I always get busted! Gonna slow down and enjoy what I have.
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