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Johnnymoto 11-08-2012 10:37 AM

Big City vs Small Town, how do you feel ?
 
Hey I moved from the Mountains, small Town, where almost everybody was cool, friendly, true, helpfull, sincere, and honest, to a Big City, which is Fun, and has A LOT to do every day/night, but where people ( most, not everyone ) is cold, selfish, quiet, not helpfull, not caring, and individualist. I have had a very hard time adjusting to my new life, and now I`m facing the fact that I either adjust, or keep feeling so lonely and sad, I really miss my old friends and neighbors, the ones who shared everything they had, the old pals who cared and always tried to be closer, not farther. I miss those days dearly, I miss my past Small Town GOOD Life. I make much more money now, and have access to many new things, but friends and pals are the true Richness in Life. I miss my old Life.

kg4kpg 11-08-2012 06:42 PM

Go back, save yourself! I used to think I loved living on the big city but now when I leave work it ages 45 minutes to an hour to go less than three miles in traffic, most people re rude and you risk an altercation if you fuss at them for being an ass. I'd love to move out to a smaller town, like 10,000 or so. My dad lives in a small Texas town and most everyone is friendly. Of course, they have only 300 or so in the own and maybe 3000 in the county.
Good luck with your choice.

traitor08 11-08-2012 08:59 PM

I hate big cities. Won't live, or work in one.

I can ride an Atv to work. I see wildlife daily. I might see 4 cars on the way to work. I can shoot, or fish on my Lunch break.

Cities are full of people in a hurry for no reason. Every body thinking they are above the next guy. And usually full of old ladies who think there dog is more important than a person.

I think everyone in the US should have to spend a year on a farm.

backwards 11-08-2012 09:04 PM

There's a compromise for every thing. You need to figure how much compromise you are willing to accept. Me? Run for the hills!

Farnham21 11-09-2012 12:06 AM

City, why would you want to drive an hour to just get to a supermarket? F that when things are close it makes life so much easier on you and your family. How much fun are your kids gonna have with a horse and a pig as a friend? Society is different now the country is changing. The economy is going down the drain and farming is a little part of the reason why. Move to the city live the fun lifestyle of having places to go every day and night and new people to meet. Of you live in the country even the fat has station lady starts t look attractive after a few months neglected from a nice population. Take your talents to south beach and leave behind those country ways you won't regret it. Ps. I don't live in a big city (suburb of buffalo)

Autark 11-09-2012 12:21 AM

Couple of thoughts, go to the same places a lot around the same time, like a restaurant or grocery store. Keep being friendly to everyone, it will pay off in time. It takes some people a little longer to warm up. Pick a hobby where people tend to meet up fairly often. There's no replacement for a community like it sounds like you had, but you can make a few pockets of it for yourself. Persevere.

sonofabeach 11-09-2012 01:20 AM

I live about 30 miles from Jacksonville, Fl.
I like it here, not too secluded, not too crowded.
When I go to downtown Jax, it seems like NYC to me. My wife works downtown and really puts the mileage on her vehicle as a result.
On the other hand, when some of my Jax friends come to my house, they say it's the sticks.
To me, it's the suburbs with woods here and there.

Redsand 11-09-2012 01:26 AM

Small town here, actually outside of a small town . Closest neighbour is a 1/4 mile away. The freedom to pee outside!

Cascadian 11-09-2012 01:28 AM

Yeah I hear you... I've lived in the Seattle area for the majority of my life, and before that I was in Los Angeles. I had no idea how bad the social skills of people in the coastal cities were until I dated a girl from Kansas and gained some perspective. I flew out to see her family in the small town she grew up in a few times. I fell in love with the Midwest and how cool the people were out there. I miss it.

Oh, on top of poor social skills, we also have hipsters here in Seattle :facepalm:

wmwhitey 11-09-2012 01:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Redsand (Post 2975470)
Small town here, actually outside of a small town . Closest neighbour is a 1/4 mile away. The freedom to pee outside!



I miss waking up stepping out on the back yard and going pee lol guess I will go back to the country once I am out of the military.

topher38 11-09-2012 01:59 AM

I grew up in a small town. Hell when I was a kid the population of falcon co was maybe 2500 but that's over about 35 or so square miles. (how big the falcons land is). We use to only have a livestock feed store and a diamond shamrock. Now there's a Walmart, every fast food place you can think of, a Safeway, a big Mexican restraint, and prolly close to 30,000 people if not more. It's terrible I wish I could go Bak to shooting guns from my deck, or lighting off fire works with out the old communist POS that lives on the corner calling the cops. I want to move to a small town once I'm a little older but I don't have the money yet, for I'm only 19

Bone-Saw 11-09-2012 02:02 AM

Moving from Orlando out to the orange groves here in Florida has really just relaxed me. I love the small town life

traitor08 11-09-2012 06:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Farnham21 (Post 2975370)
City, why would you want to drive an hour to just get to a supermarket? F that when things are close it makes life so much easier on you and your family. How much fun are your kids gonna have with a horse and a pig as a friend? Society is different now the country is changing. The economy is going down the drain and farming is a little part of the reason why. Move to the city live the fun lifestyle of having places to go every day and night and new people to meet. Of you live in the country even the fat has station lady starts t look attractive after a few months neglected from a nice population. Take your talents to south beach and leave behind those country ways you won't regret it. Ps. I don't live in a big city (suburb of buffalo)

I hope you are joking sir. If not, you are part of the problem with cities. Farming is ruining the economy, quite the opposite. And god forbid if you actually plan ahead and only have to shop once a month or so, because you can grow you own food and hunt to put meat on the table.

klkb 11-09-2012 06:52 AM

I live in the suburbs but wish for a much slower and simpler way of life. The time we spend in Hatteras village, on the Outer Banks, is paradise. I open the door and let the kids go play. The owner of the local store knows them by name. Our neighbors across the street and next to us will prepare our house for a hurricane before we even ask them to just look out for water rising on it. It's both comforting and sucky that everyone knows everyone. Yes, the drawback is the hospital being an hour away, but the local ambulance is always prepared. I do love the convenience of the suburbs and the diverse opportunities and choices we have, but every time we go to Hatteras we keep asking ourselves why we go home.

mudmagnet63 11-09-2012 07:53 AM

out in the sticks with an F-150 and a 30.06

Mud

97wrangler-242 11-09-2012 08:50 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Farnham21
City, why would you want to drive an hour to just get to a supermarket? F that when things are close it makes life so much easier on you and your family. How much fun are your kids gonna have with a horse and a pig as a friend? Society is different now the country is changing. The economy is going down the drain and farming is a little part of the reason why. Move to the city live the fun lifestyle of having places to go every day and night and new people to meet. Of you live in the country even the fat has station lady starts t look attractive after a few months neglected from a nice population. Take your talents to south beach and leave behind those country ways you won't regret it. Ps. I don't live in a big city (suburb of buffalo)

Fail

Quote:

Originally Posted by mudmagnet63
out in the sticks with an F-150 and a 30.06

Mud

The only way of life for me!

whetstone 11-09-2012 09:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Farnham21 (Post 2975370)
City, why would you want to drive an hour to just get to a supermarket? F that when things are close it makes life so much easier on you and your family. How much fun are your kids gonna have with a horse and a pig as a friend? Society is different now the country is changing. The economy is going down the drain and farming is a little part of the reason why. Move to the city live the fun lifestyle of having places to go every day and night and new people to meet. Of you live in the country even the fat has station lady starts t look attractive after a few months neglected from a nice population. Take your talents to south beach and leave behind those country ways you won't regret it. Ps. I don't live in a big city (suburb of buffalo)

You're exactly right.
There are no grocery stores in the town of 6000 that I live near (except for the 3 that are there)
My kid only has a pig for a friend (ill be sure to let all of her friends parents know what you think of them)
All the farmers are destroying the economy. (Remember the billions they took in bonuses they took in bailout money? Me neither)
Everybody is fat and ugly here

Are you really that condescending?

hummer-rescue-squad 11-09-2012 09:22 AM

how do them city folks get there drinkin water,,, there aint no wind mills in the city!

KittyPrawn 11-09-2012 09:43 AM

Small towns make me uncomfortable. When I moved from NJ to WA, I had a very hard time adjusting. I hated that people just wanted to stop and talk to me.

It isn't even like I lived in a big city in NJ, but NJ isn't known for being "friendly." It's a very "mind your own business" mindset where I'm from. So, I feel weird being in places that are different. I don't like when people talk to me when I'm waiting in line or sitting on public trans. I don't enjoy small talk, and I often make it very awkwardly.

WA didn't rub off on me, but Fairfax is a lot more like NJ than WA. Give me a bigger city any day. Not only because of attitude, but because I hated that I was limited in restaurants and places. I didn't even have access to an Apple store unless I drove to Seattle, which was a good 45-60 min away.

brandon-99tj 11-09-2012 09:55 AM

Small town for sure. Of course im talking a town of MAYBE 200 people....if you count the people that drive thru on the highway.... Born and raised in that town. Everybody knows everybody, i know people will keep an eye on my property for me when im gone. My grocery store is the garden in the back yard and the cattle farmer right outside town. We do have a gas station/store. I wouldnt wanna live anywhere else.

Chris M 11-09-2012 12:41 PM

Small(er) town. I grew up in Abilene, TX with a population of just over 100,000. But it was very spread out and you'd never know how many people were there. It's also on the "edge" of the American desert so the location was awesome if you ask me. After college I couldn't get out fast enough. I came to the Dallas (Mesquite) area to look for a job (and my AF Reserve base was close by). I enjoyed it for a while. I met my wife an we got married and are still here, 10 years after getting married and 11 after I moved here.

There are some things I like, such as the variety of food and stuff to do. Abilene didn't have jack when I moved away. I've gotten really plugged into the church we attend and that alone would make it hard to get away from here. In addition, my wife has always lived out here and now my wife is all the family her mom has. So we have stayed and I have not pressed the issue.

I really want to move back to a smaller town. I liked having access to good hunting that I didn't have to drive a few hours for. I liked making my own entertainment growing up. I appreciate the small talk in small towns, all though I prefer to just stick to myself. However, if you are having a problem with a car or the like in a small town, somebody will always help you out. I'm not a fan of big cities, but have accepted that for the immediate future, this is where my life is. My wife understands and after having travelled around west Texas with me, she sees the unique beauty and features of the area that can't be found in a concrete jungle. She also understands when I want to get out of town and want to go hunt with a buddy, or just go hang out on his land and shoot guns and drive four wheelers all day. She's accepted that sometimes I just want to be gone for an entire weekend so I don't lose that part of me.

In the end though, people need to go where they are happiest and the trade offs work best for them and their family. As I said, I've accepted the city life, but prefer the small town. Luckily for me, my town now has a small town feel in many aspects and that can at least keep me happy for the time being.

Johnnymoto 11-09-2012 02:36 PM

I appreciate all the advise and good comments.
I have a very hard time adjusting to the City.
I used to stop for everyone on the road, and help everyone with gas money, mech help, towing, even a couple of times I loaned my car for free for emergencies ( like the young couple taking their 1 y.o. baby to the E/G room ). But one day, everything changed for me, my two boys were driving to my house and their car broke down ( lost a wheel, came off ), they called me from the Highway, and took me over two hours to get there, and guess what, NOT ONE SINGLE SOUL stopped and offered help !!! Boy was I hurt, my heart just went really sad. I could not believe how people in the City are !!! Since then, I am mad !!! I really think twice when helping anyone, and only help if the person looks very poor or in danger of getting hurt or hurt, besides that, I think twice. City is OK, but the people are so selfish, and the ones who are not, are eventually pushed into the same State of Mind. people in the Big City, JUST DON`T CARE about anyone but themselves, and now I know why, the get into the mindset of ; "If nobody helps me, why should I help ? I don`t want to change, but now I feel like a fool when I help like I used to. In my CountrySide Town, I`m still the same cool guy.

klkb 11-09-2012 02:40 PM

Don't change who you are. If you do, the city will win. Continue to be an inspiration to others. You never know who might look upon your kindness and pay it forward.

KittyPrawn 11-09-2012 03:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Johnnymoto
I appreciate all the advise and good comments.
I have a very hard time adjusting to the City.
I used to stop for everyone on the road, and help everyone with gas money, mech help, towing, even a couple of times I loaned my car for free for emergencies ( like the young couple taking their 1 y.o. baby to the E/G room ). But one day, everything changed for me, my two boys were driving to my house and their car broke down ( lost a wheel, came off ), they called me from the Highway, and took me over two hours to get there, and guess what, NOT ONE SINGLE SOUL stopped and offered help !!! Boy was I hurt, my heart just went really sad. I could not believe how people in the City are !!! Since then, I am mad !!! I really think twice when helping anyone, and only help if the person looks very poor or in danger of getting hurt or hurt, besides that, I think twice. City is OK, but the people are so selfish, and the ones who are not, are eventually pushed into the same State of Mind. people in the Big City, JUST DON`T CARE about anyone but themselves, and now I know why, the get into the mindset of ; "If nobody helps me, why should I help ? I don`t want to change, but now I feel like a fool when I help like I used to. In my CountrySide Town, I`m still the same cool guy.

It's not a matter of not caring. It ends up being a matter of liability. Maybe it is a city mindset, but people are so willing to sue others for an easy buck, it makes it difficult to help another.

On top of that, some people are just paranoid. You see so many real or fake stories on the internet of someone pretending to be broken down in order to rob you or kidnap you.

Don't be quick to assume it is all selfishness.

sonofabeach 11-09-2012 04:47 PM

As a child on the farm I was warned of the wiles of the city
Of that demon disguised as the dirt in the skies of the city
Well they say the proximity warps their minds
'Til they're shooting one another just to pass the time
And we lived it appeared, both in spite and in fear of the city

I was constantly told how our lives were controlled by the city
How they keep us in debt with the trends that they set, it's a pity
How the beautiful people in the magazines got the normal ones living beyond their means
and the things that they said made me go in my head to the city

When I finally came, there's some things still the same in the city
You're still under the thumb of the rich and the young and the pretty
Well they weren't much different than we might act if there was that many others stacked closely packed
It's an ancient idea but it struck me so clear in the city

mjf232 11-09-2012 06:46 PM

My avatar should answer this one....City. Both have their Pros and Cons. For me, coming from Philadelphia, I cant imagine living anywhere that lacks the conveinence city living offers. Yes, its harsher and faster paced but thats an education all in itself. You learn quick on who can be trusted and who to look out for. Also, theres just plenty more to do. Now I'm not saying there's nothing to do in the country, just saying there's more options in the City. I used to say I wanted to move cause my area sometimes gets on my nerves, then everytime I go away, I tell my wife I want to stay where we are. Country living has its perks too, but I love where I'm from and can't imagine living anywhere else.

BlueRidgeYJ 11-09-2012 09:22 PM

Born in Northside Hospital, ATL, GA. Raised just north of, left at 22, back at 24, left again at 28. I live in a town of 452 now, but outside "city limits" (lmao). I agree with President Jefferson.

"When we get piled upon one another in large cities, as in Europe, we shall become as corrupt as Europe" T. Jefferson

Human beings are not supposed to live in supercities. Ever see how big animal colonies get? Take a clue...

Titaness 11-10-2012 05:09 AM

City girl here . No question. Though I am in the suburbs of philly (the best).

I am not originally from the USA and do not mistake "friendliness" of small towns with kindness, acceptance nor tolerance. When I open my mouth , quickly that friendliness becomes annoyance , distrust and at times hostility. That kindness is reserved for people who fit a mold. Of course this isn't true for every small town BUT it has been my experience. And while city living can be a pain I love it because....

I love bookstores with lot lots lots of reading material.
I love experiencing and sharing in different religions and cultures.
I looooooove restaurants
I love access to excellent hospitals.
I love high fashion.
I love how close I am to major airports
I love weird ingredients and specialty foods
I love sleek cars ( and my jeep)
I love a varied education for my kids
I love being able to be alone with others !
I love the theater
I love parades!
I love that my best friend is Irish catholic , her husband is black , I'm Latina and my best friend is gay and no one blinked an eye when we sat down to eat at the Greek restaurant even those who might hate any one of us or hated us as a group could care less.
I love that my kids have employment options ( easy access )

harleydragon 11-10-2012 09:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Farnham21 (Post 2975370)
City, why would you want to drive an hour to just get to a supermarket? F that when things are close it makes life so much easier on you and your family. How much fun are your kids gonna have with a horse and a pig as a friend? Society is different now the country is changing. The economy is going down the drain and farming is a little part of the reason why. Move to the city live the fun lifestyle of having places to go every day and night and new people to meet. Of you live in the country even the fat has station lady starts t look attractive after a few months neglected from a nice population. Take your talents to south beach and leave behind those country ways you won't regret it. Ps. I don't live in a big city (suburb of buffalo)

I live out in the country,about 12 miles from our small town.It takes me 12 minutes to get to the grocer because I don't have to deal with traffic.Life is easier for me and mine without a million other people crammed up our butt..my kids , just as I did loved growing up with animals as our friends.In my opinion animals can teach a kid compassion,tolerance,patience and love.What can the gangs,cons and drug dealers of the city teach yours ?? The economy is going down the drain but I can't see where the farmer that is planting trees,helping our wildlife to survive and most importantly feeding us is to blame.I consider fun,spending time with my wife,children,grandchildren and lab,riding the fields and dirt roads in our jeeps,walking in the woods,fishing or just enjoying the quiet,beautiful sunsets.The most beautiful women in the world to me is my wife,mother,daughters and granddaughters.What more could any man ask for ?? I take my talents to the shop and build a harley or a jeep.To me you do live in a big city because I live on the 400 acre farm that I grew up on and my only neighbors within a half mile are my mother and one of my daughters family.I wouldn't trade where I live for anywhere and wish you would all move to the city..

shell 11-10-2012 07:26 PM

I grew up in a little town called Eldorado, Texas.....loved living there...knew everyone, had everything I ever needed or wanted. Now live in San Antonio....BIG difference. It does have its perks..there's plenty to do, but I hate the traffic and crowdedness. I would move back to a small town if I had the opportunity.


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