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drivebytruckerz 05-27-2010 11:20 AM

Memorial Day NOT a celebration..
 
Just a yearly heads up I like to give about a pet peeve of mine:

"Like Patriot Day and Pearl Harbor Day, Memorial Day is not a celebration, but rather a heartfelt and prayerful response to a solemn duty. Memorial Day is a day of remembrance for the brave servicemen and women who not only answered the call, but made the supreme sacrifice for our sake -- trusting in us who remain and our descendants to ensure that their selfless sacrifice would not be in vain. It is a reminder that freedom isn't free, and that we must choose our leaders wisely, because the game of politics has real life consequences seldom known by those who play it."

I found this article online at nj.com and was a declaration by a local Patriotic Celebration Committee in a New Jersey town and I think it puts it very well. So when you're at your cookout or taking a long weekend trip take a moment to remember the reason for the holiday, and that "Happy Memorial Day" is not really an appropriate greeting this weekend. That's what Veteran's day is for, the living and the dead who served, but Memorial Day is set aside for those who paid the price and didn't make it home to their families. God Bless them.

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"What a cruel thing is war: to separate and destroy families and friends, and mar the purest joys and happiness God has granted us in this world; to fill our hearts with hatred instead of love for our neighbors, and to devastate the fair face of this beautiful world." -Robert E. Lee

toshpate 05-27-2010 11:48 AM

^ well said. we have a very an awesome military cemetary in Ft. Gibson about 15 miles from my town. They usually do something for military holidays. It is similar to arlington with the perfectly aligned white crosses but its humbling as well. Thanks to all that have served and who are still serving.. be safe

chilly waters 05-27-2010 11:54 AM

" And When You Go Home, Tell Them Of Us And Say, For Their Tomorrow We Gave Our Today"

drivebytruckerz 05-27-2010 11:56 AM

Thanks... I know people mean well tell myself and other vets "thanks" on Memorial Day, or saying "happy Memorial day," but it's a day for reflection and remembrance, not to those who serve/have served, but to those who never came home.

florida boy 05-27-2010 11:58 AM

as a member of the army i feel that you said it right. most people take it as a day off of work and dont ever thanx the people that gave that day off and the ones still are fighting for them.

drivebytruckerz 05-27-2010 12:20 PM

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Originally Posted by florida boy (Post 636093)
as a member of the army i feel that you said it right. most people take it as a day off of work and dont ever thanx the people that gave that day off and the ones still are fighting for them.

I just always hang out at the house, maybe go to a ballgame or to a memorial somewhere. I don't think I'd ever feel right having a cookout or some sort of party..

baja 05-27-2010 12:47 PM

You try to explain this to folks around here(non service)and they tilt their heads and look at you like a confused dog.It is a day of remembering the people who sacrificed their lives for this country.It is a day for me to visit some stones and toast the memory of all fallen veterans.To fly my POW flag proudly for those who are still there.If I must explain,you will not understand.

drivebytruckerz 05-27-2010 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by baja (Post 636139)
You try to explain this to folks around here(non service)and they tilt their heads and look at you like a confused dog.It is a day of remembering the people who sacrificed their lives for this country.It is a day for me to visit some stones and toast the memory of all fallen veterans.To fly my POW flag proudly for those who are still there.If I must explain,you will not understand.

Yeah, like I said.. people mean well, but "Happy Memorial Day" is really pretty inappropriate..

JIMBOX 05-27-2010 01:03 PM

:) Here Here, very well said, my 23 years in the USN, through several "Police Action" were a pleasurable duty, but

Even though the Memorial day (Decoration day) started after the Civil war, it's especially meaningful to me, because of the loss of the USS Thresher (SSN) 593 (1963)and USS Scorpion (SSN) 589 (1968), I had several officers that were close friends, on both and stay in contact with there families --a long time !!

I don't celebrate that day and usually don't get on the freeways for ANYTHING

It's a somewhat sad holiday as far as I'm concerned !!

:(:( JIMBO

drivebytruckerz 05-27-2010 01:54 PM

I agree.. at least for me, putting faces of friends with the holiday makes it a somber occasion.

baja 05-27-2010 02:36 PM

For me it has never been a sober occasion.It won't be this time around either.Heres to all my fallen brothers- may their tormented souls rest in peace.

nick50471 05-27-2010 02:53 PM

I hope the sacrafice I made means my kids won't need too.

sevenservices 05-27-2010 03:07 PM

Every year we walk in the parade with the local scouts (Im the troop committee chairman). After the parade we'll attend three services at local cemeterys, then relax for the afternoon with just the immediate family... Your right, it should'nt be a "Happy" day. Its a national day of remembrance.

So remember your losses and honor their sacrifices, If you don't have memories or were not part of loosing friends and family, take the day to learn about the sacrifices made. Then, you will have something to remember next year ;)

drivebytruckerz 05-27-2010 03:10 PM

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Originally Posted by sevenservices (Post 636278)
Every year we walk in the parade with the local scouts (Im the troop committee chairman). After the parade we'll attend three services at local cemeterys, then relax for the afternoon with just the immediate family... Your right, it should'nt be a "Happy" day. Its a national day of remembrance.

So remember your losses and honor their sacrifices, If you don't have memories or were not part of loosing friends and family, take the day to learn about the sacrifices made. Then, you will have something to remember next year ;)

Great stuff.. scouts are great.

CMEvans79 05-27-2010 03:16 PM

We get together as friends and family to remember those we have lost that served. We then leave where we have fellowshiped together to go and visit our dead loved ones. Every year, rain or shine. Its not a celebration at all, I agree.

drivebytruckerz 05-27-2010 03:19 PM

Most people will take pictures of themselves at a lake or getting drunk at a cookout and post them online and call the album "Happy Memorial Day" or some garbage.. pet peeve.

daggo66 05-27-2010 03:36 PM

My dad served during WWII in North Africa and Italy. He's 89. We were in a Delaware rest stop once and he was wearing a veteran's jacket and cap. 2 young servicemen in uniform came up to him and shook his hand and thanked him for serving. It still brings tears to my eyes thinking about it. There aren't many of his kind left.

RatherBNarizona 05-27-2010 03:40 PM

I need your guys help.

My grandfather is a marine veteran, and I call him every year and thank him for what he has done. Last year, he got really upset, not because I called him, just because he didn't want to think about it. What should I do this year? Should I call him? I want to tell him I'm thankful, but I don't want him to get upset or angry.

mrcarcrazy 05-27-2010 03:40 PM

People are ignorant. No "holiday" or "special day" has the meaning it was intended to have originally...I've accepted that most people will not understand why they don't have to go to work that day...

I appreciate all our soldiers, fallen, and standing. Past/present/future soldiers do and will deserve the utmost respect IMO. They've given in ways that most will not.

daggo66 05-27-2010 03:50 PM

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Originally Posted by RatherBNmexico (Post 636331)
I need your guys help.

My grandfather is a marine veteran, and I call him every year and thank him for what he has done. Last year, he got really upset, not because I called him, just because he didn't want to think about it. What should I do this year? Should I call him? I want to tell him I'm thankful, but I don't want him to get upset or angry.

I would call him and tell him that you just wanted to say hi and talk to him because it is a special day and you were thinking about him, as you always do. No need to mention anything particular about the day, he already knows what it is and probably has his fallen brothers on his mind.

drivebytruckerz 05-27-2010 03:51 PM

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Originally Posted by mrcarcrazy (Post 636332)
People are ignorant. No "holiday" or "special day" has the meaning it was intended to have originally...I've accepted that most people will not understand why they don't have to go to work that day...

I appreciate all our soldiers, fallen, and standing. Past/present/future soldiers do and will deserve the utmost respect IMO. They've given in ways that most will not.

I guess you're right.. if Jesus can't have Christmas.. then fallen service members can't have their day either.. Jesus gets iPods and Tickle Me Elmo while our dead military get Car tent sales and dirt cheap appliances.. makes sense..

daggo66 05-27-2010 04:13 PM

I get pissed that our town has the Memorial Day parade a week early just to make it convenient for people who want to travel this weekend. They are missing the whole point.

biffman 05-27-2010 04:46 PM

The town I'm from in Illinois has an excellent memorial day observance at the town cemetary. It is very somber, taps is played, a 21 gun salute completed, declarations are read. Having numerous relatives who have paid the price in various wars over the years it seems the appropriate way to observe.

Schmo 05-27-2010 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by drivebytruckerz (Post 636344)
I guess you're right.. if Jesus can't have Christmas.. then fallen service members can't have their day either.. Jesus gets iPods and Tickle Me Elmo while our dead military get Car tent sales and dirt cheap appliances.. makes sense..

I get the whole commericalizing of Christmas (or perhaps I should say Winter Solstice) it's been that way for years, but now days Jesus can't even have Easter . . . Walmart has stolen Easter too . . . Veteran's Day and Memorial Day will probably be next. Remember Christmas, Easter, Veteran's Day and Memorial Day costs less at Walmart! Roll backs on Budweiser, weiners, chips and dip, and disposable American flags made in Bangladesh.

Dare2BSquare 05-27-2010 05:14 PM

So, do you guys think our group would "get in trouble" if we held a memorial service on the plane on Memorial Day while flying to Europe? There's 40 of us, so we will have a good part of the aircraft to ourselves.

amy 05-27-2010 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by RatherBNmexico (Post 636331)
I need your guys help.

My grandfather is a marine veteran, and I call him every year and thank him for what he has done. Last year, he got really upset, not because I called him, just because he didn't want to think about it. What should I do this year? Should I call him? I want to tell him I'm thankful, but I don't want him to get upset or angry.

My father fought in the Pacific in WWII. To this day, he refuses to talk about it. It's only recently that he's been willing to eat pork, because of something he saw or experienced during the war. We don't push him to talk about it, even though my brothers and I, and out children, would love to learn more about his life. We respect his wishes.
RB, my suggestion is to call your grandfather just to talk to him. Don't mention what day it is or thank him for his service. Just talk to him and let him know how much he means to you, as your Grandpa.

InfernoGirl 05-27-2010 05:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RatherBNmexico (Post 636331)
I need your guys help.

My grandfather is a marine veteran, and I call him every year and thank him for what he has done. Last year, he got really upset, not because I called him, just because he didn't want to think about it. What should I do this year? Should I call him? I want to tell him I'm thankful, but I don't want him to get upset or angry.

Call him and tell him you love him.......

amy 05-27-2010 05:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Dare2BSquare (Post 636438)
So, do you guys think our group would "get in trouble" if we held a memorial service on the plane on Memorial Day while flying to Europe? There's 40 of us, so we will have a good part of the aircraft to ourselves.

If you're all sitting together, I would think it would be ok. If they don't want a memorial service on the plane, you could all have a moment of silence, among yourselves.

Dare2BSquare 05-27-2010 05:39 PM

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Originally Posted by amy (Post 636446)
If you're all sitting together, I would think it would be ok. If they don't want a memorial service on the plane, you could all have a moment of silence, among yourselves.

We're flying Alitalia. I'd hate to have them land the plane in the Atlantic to put us off!

amy 05-27-2010 05:59 PM

Ahhhh, well then, if you all really want to have a memorial service on the plane, call the airline and ask permission first.


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