I bet you're a blast at parties 😛
Not pointing out a mistake in your question, but you're not providing enough info for the cut and dry answer you seem to want. Rubbing issues how? Normal on-road driving, or fully stuffed and disconnected off-road? What lift kit? Does your lift manufacturer list a minimum backspace to avoid rubbing their end links? Are you factory arms but lifted? Did you add adjustable arms to move your axles? If so how far did you move them? etc, etc, but I think you get the idea.
In general (because you only gave us enough info for a general answer):
On road:
5.2" or less. 5.2" is what AEV uses as it's backspace on most of their wheels with a 35/12.5" tire in mind. They are considered by most to be experts, but their wheels are 8.5", not 9". I personally prefer 4.5" on mine when running a 35/12.5", but with your restrictions that' doesn't sound like what's best for you.
Off road:
All depends on your suspension set-up, can't give an answer without knowing all the details.
In your situation I would look at an AEV wheel or one that is comparable in spec. And if you get slight rubbing in certain situations, so be it. It won't be intolerable. AEV verbiage below:
Not pointing out a mistake in your question, but you're not providing enough info for the cut and dry answer you seem to want. Rubbing issues how? Normal on-road driving, or fully stuffed and disconnected off-road? What lift kit? Does your lift manufacturer list a minimum backspace to avoid rubbing their end links? Are you factory arms but lifted? Did you add adjustable arms to move your axles? If so how far did you move them? etc, etc, but I think you get the idea.
In general (because you only gave us enough info for a general answer):
On road:
5.2" or less. 5.2" is what AEV uses as it's backspace on most of their wheels with a 35/12.5" tire in mind. They are considered by most to be experts, but their wheels are 8.5", not 9". I personally prefer 4.5" on mine when running a 35/12.5", but with your restrictions that' doesn't sound like what's best for you.
Off road:
All depends on your suspension set-up, can't give an answer without knowing all the details.
In your situation I would look at an AEV wheel or one that is comparable in spec. And if you get slight rubbing in certain situations, so be it. It won't be intolerable. AEV verbiage below: