For 35" tires and your 3-speed automatic transmission, you want 4.56 gears. 4.88 is appropriate for the 4.0L engine and 5-speed transmission but you really need to go with the slightly higher 4.56 ratio or your rpms will be too high if you went 4.88. 4.10 is too low of a ratio to fully restore the performance lost with 35" tires.
Brand wise, since you said the "best", you can't beat Spicer gears. Afterall, they are who made your axles... Dana-Spicer.
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