UPDATE: For future explorers finding this thread:
Completed the driver's side valve cover gasket. Videos help, it's really just unbolting, a little cleaning, then rebolting. Success at 208,880 miles
Physically, several of the lower (wheel) side bolts were absolutely loose - didn't need any pressure to "break" them loose. That's where the leak was from.
Tips:
Take out the sensor on the rear of the cover - I got lazy and just disconnected it, and spent two hours trying to figure out why the valve cover wouldn't release. The sensor is about 3" long and hits something inside so that the cover can't be removed without removing the sensor. Then a lot of jiggling to get it out - lot of cables in the way. Zip tie the cables out of the way helps.
Pictures of how I got the bottom rear bolt out. Note zip tie keeping tubes out of the way. I used a small 1/4 inch ratchet, from the firewall side, and a 8mm long socket becuse they put a nut there instead of a bolt just to screw you. Used a trim remover tool to hold the heavy tube there out of the way: