I have a 2.5 5sp and a 2.5 auto, I run 32s on the 5sp and 31s on the auto. My buddy has a 2.5 5sp that he normally runs 33s with no problems. And yes we wheel the snot out of them. Now he has a set of 35s he is trying out. He says it works ok, but he can't top 60mph with the 35s. But he is alright with that.
The thing with gears and tire size is it is always a trade off. Bigger tires mean less top end and somewhat less takeoff speeds. Smaller tires means more RPMs at a given speed. You just have to learn what you are willing to put up with.
But if you want to run 33s don't be afraid to run them. Just don't plan on using 5th gear much, if any. 4th will keep your 2.5 in that 2800-2900 sweet spot, you should only suffer a small mpg penalty. My mileage went up when my 5th gear went out. lol
Now that brings up the subject of breakage. I wouldn't worry about the axles, the 2.5 puts out barely enough power to to turn the axles, much less break them. Just don't get stupid if you get bound up off road and you should be fine. Like I said, we wheel the snot out our 2.5 Jeeps. The real weak point is the AX-5 transmission. My 5th went out n the highway headed to a wheeling trip. Went wheeling with 4 gears and drove for another 2 months before I relpaced the trans. My buddy AX-5 shift internal shift linkage tore up on his. He switched to an AX-15 and loves it.
So if you want 33s, run them and see if you can live with the tradeoffs. Or you can do what my buddy is doing, he bought a set of cheap used 35s($100) and slapped them on spare rims to try them out before he spends the money for new 35s. Remember, regearing is alot more expensive than tires.